Do you know how your child really experiences your family’s screen rules?
You can set rules about phones, gaming, social media and screen time. But there is something much harder to know: what has your child learned about what really happens when those rules are tested?
This free parent-child diagnostic takes about five minutes each and shows where your perceptions match — and where your child may be experiencing something very different.
Parents already have rules. That does not mean they know what their child is experiencing.
Source: Australian eSafety Commissioner, Keeping Kids Safe Online research.
Children learn from what happens, not only from what we say.
A family might have clear rules about screen time, privacy and what happens when something goes wrong online. But everyday experience teaches another set of rules: whether it is safe to admit a mistake, whether adults follow the same standards, whether consequences feel predictable, and whether asking for help makes things better or worse.
Those learned expectations become the unwritten rules of the family.
The stated rule and the learned rule are not always the same.
A comparison, not a judgement.
Parent and child answer the same 12 questions separately. Your result shows the places where your experiences align, the places where they differ, and the conversations most worth having.
Where you agree
See the parts of family technology life you experience in broadly the same way.
What you may be missing
Identify where you believe something is working better than your child experiences it.
What to talk about
Receive practical conversation prompts based on your biggest differences.
Three simple steps.
Answer based on what usually happens, rather than what ought to happen.
They use a private family code and complete the same diagnostic independently.
You see where your views line up, where they differ and which conversations may be useful.
More than 30 years of work on the rules people never write down.
Steve Simpson created the UGRs — Unwritten Ground Rules — concept more than 30 years ago to help organisations uncover the expectations that quietly shape behaviour and culture.
UGRs are people’s perceptions of “this is the way we do things around here.” This diagnostic applies that same lens to family technology use.
“The question is not only What are the rules?
It is What has experience taught your child the rules really are?
Curious about what your child may be seeing differently?
Start with your 12 questions. Your child completes theirs separately using a private family code.